All I want for my wedding is....

Thanks to an entry on Angela's blog, I was inspired to try this for myself. Unlike Ange who never gave weddings a thought, I on the other hand, have always known I wanted to be a wife and mom. Maybe deep down inside, I just want to make things right in my own future family but I also know now that there is no such thing as a "right" family. Families are all dysfucntional in some way or other. What I have come to realise is that happy couples often have happy families. Often but not all the time. It starts with the folks and once you get that right, half the battle's won.

I wonder sometimes what would happen to the BF and I if we were to tie the knot. We are so different from each other. He's the practical go-getter type that loves fast cars and fancy stuff while I'm just the head-the-clouds idealist who just wants a normal peaceful life. He likes the vibrancy and pulsating beat of city life and I like quiet places full of fresh air and peace and adventures like white water rafting, hiking, etc. I don't do that in SG but when I'm overseas in that kind of environment, I feel alive. We have different religions and come from totally different backgrounds too. His family is the traditional chinese type while my folks can be classified as kampong-bohemian.

But I think it's our differences that pull us towards each other and we find comfort in each other as well. I look to him for practical advice and to teach me the ways of the world that I'm clueless about and he, well, I can only guess that he finds my simplicity attractive.

It's coming to 2 years soon for us. Seems longer, everyone says. Even I feel that too. Since I cannot speak for him, I can only say that I am happy but have my worries about the gap in personalities and character. I am also as mule stubborn but what this relationship has taught me is that sacrifice comes with everything worth fighting for. I see in this man a good heart, struggling to reconcile desires with contentment, a person who is loyal and protective, that feels deeply but tries not to show it, a walking paradox in so many ways that is both frustrating and endearing at the same time. Perhaps that is why I love him. That he is interesting and unpredictable and never boring. And that he loves me in his funny little ways.

So. I'm just going to take a backseat and let things pan out. It's not like it's a decision that I can make on my own. It involves another human being so it's only fair for both to make it work. BUT... if I can indulge my fantasies for awhile, here's my wedding theme:


When:
April to May - the month of our anniversary and month of Easter. I definitely don't think its appropriate to have weddings during the season of Lent and Good Friday. Very bad taste.


Colour:
Either pink & green or purple & silver. Pink & Green are colours that make me very happy while Purple & Silver has a classy touch.


Where:
In church with a soloist singing Ave Maria as I walk down the aisle with my Dad. Afterwards, lunch under a white canopy in an outdoor courtyard filled with pink and green blooms. I so don't want a traditional Chinese dinner. Kind of dread it actually.


What:
4-course meal with dessert buffet and a huge chocolate fountain with mountains of strawberries dusted with icing sugar. Witty, funny emcee-host and hostess. String quartet with soloist. Toasts by my best friends.


Favours:
Pink, green and brown Chocs and Candies shaped in the "shuang xi" letters in a jar tied with pink and green polka dot ribbon.


Attire:
Vera Wang is way too expensive but I'll settle for a lookalike. Or a Monique Lhullier. Their gowns are just too gorgeous. Nothing too flouncy. I like soft, fluid designs. And it has to NOT emphasize my fat arms.


Music:
I'm not particular but not slow stuff. Happy happy joy joy works for me - will leave music choice to my sister.


Entertainment:
I actually like the photo montage thingy they show at chinese wedding dinners but prefer it to include photos or videos of friends and family who are attending. Makes it inclusive. If there could be a couple dancing the argentinien tango would be fab! I always thought it was one of the most sensual dances ever created. And of cos, a singer for all to listen to.


Honeymoon:
Spain, Italy or France would be nice. Somewhere laid back, romantic and full of little holes-in-the-wall to visit.